Facebook Hiatus (why I needed one)

I’m an avid Facebook user, borderline junkie.  Not just Facebook but all social media, Snapchat (more Snapchat for the filters) Instagram, Pinterest, Twitter, and Linkedin.  However, I have been a wholehearted supporter of Facebook since joining in 2008. Reconnecting with friends I haven’t spoken to since childhood (fun, oh, my), keeping track of long-distance family, as well as reconnecting with those old military friends. No, I’ve never served as a soldier, I did serve along the side of a solider as his wife. And, during those years I made a few select friends, in which Facebook has allowed us to find each other again and reconnect. A couple who have become dear sweet friends. However, I would actually enjoy spending countless hours (not meaning to) scrolling through my news feed, looking at pictures, recipes, liking and commenting on my likes and dislikes. Facebook (all other social media too!) is this amazing thing. A tool to find reconnect with friends and family as well as get involved in so many good charities and activities, you can even spread the gospel. Like all things in life, there is a line to be drawn, on good and bad usage.
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****DISCLAIMER Before I get into this too much, let me say this….. I don’t feel like social media is a sin. I do not think it will doom you to hell.  I feel each person has to discern for him or herself to the extent of their own personal Facebook usage. ******** 
Now that we have that out of the way let me tell you every few months (use to be years) I will take a break. Not because I thought it was interfering with anything. I would just feel a nudge and go with it. More times than not over the years I would realize this was something I needed. If you know me I have pretty thick skin. Offending me is rather hard to do. I’m a true believer in, to each his own, we’re all entitled to our opinions, even if they’re wrong (wink, wink). So, I am safe in the aspect of tough skin and Social Media. I have not ever taken a Facebook or Social Media Hiatus because of hurt feelings. Like mentioned before it was a nudge, more of a spiritual nudge.
This particular Facebook Hiatus, my choice to begin my Hiatus was more than a nudge it was more like a push. A push over a cliff.  I will tell you in the midst of using Facebook on a daily basis, it becomes a habit. Without thinking too much about it, if at all, I pick up my phone first thing in the morning, scroll, look, like and comment. From one social media app to another. Spending the majority of my time on Facebook. Not only was I allowing myself to be consumed by the time I spent scrolling. But, I had to check each social media and connect with my followers and friends. You have to post that picture perfect life photo {mine usually revolving around something I cooked or one of the grands}, encouraging scripture or quote or just say hi, so they know you still exist. I’ve been pretty open about my less than perfect upbringing and adult life through blogging and regularly sharing my blog through all social media avenues. But, I am still one of those people who is not going to post an “ugly” photo of myself. Why? Because I am human, 100 percent imperfect human.
Well before I knew it I was running behind. Did you know social media isn’t’ a legit reason to be late to work? Well, it’s not and it’s pretty frowned upon. I am no longer working {I assure you nothing to do with social media}, but still have started the day behind because I had gotten lost in the simple innocent act of scrolling. In the midst of playing catch up all day, I was finding myself in a bad mood, with everyone and everything including the vacuum getting on my nerves. Seriously, ever have an innocent vacuum be the villain in your story?  I’m the victim and my household had become the villains. It’s not only a serious issue but it’s so not cool.  The place that was now my number one job in this world, the safe haven for my loved ones had become a lair for villains, hostility, short-tempers and nerve swinging.
My issues were not the vacuums fault, not my sinks fault, it was not my husband or children faults, It was most definitely not the washing machines fault. I had become my own villain in my story, everyone else was the victims. Why? Because I had allowed one app to consume my time resulting in consuming my patience, then my joy. The joy the Lord had restored to me the year before. Therefore, I had let Facebook become an issue, a problem and it was my own fault. How did this innocent app and act of scrolling become my household kryptonite? {But I am afraid that, as the serpent deceived Eve by his craftiness, your minds will be led astray from the simplicity and purity of devotion to Christ.Verse page
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 } Eve was led by the simple act of a piece of fruit. It wasn’t even coffee or chocolate. Not for likes, dislikes and family connections.
Through this Facebook hiatus,. I have already come to a few conclusions…

  1. If I had let my bible study or time in prayer consume my morning, how much different would my days have gone? I’m pretty sure my vacuum wouldn’t be a villain, even if it is a Shark.” making the most of every opportunity because the days are evil?  Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is.” Ephesians 5:16-17 
  2. My attitude has been better, lighter and more like me.  More joking, more joy and less grumpy, Just ask my husband, he can vouch for this.  – “Let the saints be joyful in glory; Let them sing aloud on their beds.” Psalm 149:5  
  3. So much of what we see on Facebook, glance at or even read has a negative impact on our subconscious we carry it around with us all day. Don’t believe me? Take a Facebook hiatus. Then get back with me!! as well as much of what happens online communication dishonors the Lord, taints our witness to the unbelieving world, and gives place to the devil (Ephesians 4:27). Galatians 5:15 warns, “But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another!
  4. Facebook has a way of letting us think we no longer need up close and personal relationship with people. A quick social media wave, text or meme is now a sufficient form of fellowship according to society. They were continually devoting themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Acts 2:42  It’s a little hard to break bread together over social media?they broke bread

 
(Image to the left available by LovelyLetteringByJo on Etsy)
With these new profound conclusions, I’m can not say if I will ever reactivate my Facebook. It will all depend on the great plan of his will.  I have some prioritizing and working on my time management skills to do before I can even think about reactivating Facebook, And, that’s okay.  Because I am going to enjoy the time away from Facebook.  To answer your question before you ask. I am not as “addicted” to other forms of social media as I have been to facebook. I’m not really sure why. But, in the future, if they become an issue, leaving those behind will not be the end of the world. My past has been, but my present and future relationships and home will not be consumed or contaminated by attitudes relating to social media, but with real phone calls, snail mail cards and you got it the breaking of bread with friends, real life, filter-free in person breathing humans!
This is just a little insight into the life of Hollie McCalip currently.  Cross my fingers and say a prayer that this blog as blessed someone as much as the lesson has taught me.
Remember stay prayed and caffeinated up,
Hollie McCalip

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